Vortexia's Secret

ok, so here's the deal... i know that mayhem is going to want me to visit his place way more often now that he's living somewhere that he likes. but i want to avoid being like a certain girlfriend that we know (and don't like) who camps out wherever her boyfriend is living. it was more acceptable when he lived by himself, although it was a little weird that she started that trend the very first night she met him. (and no, it wasn't because they hooked up. she slept on the floor outside his bedroom door. why that didn't conjure thoughts of a stalker for the guy, i don't know.) now he's living with a friend, and i think she's only been absent a couple times. maybe once without him.

i know i will never go that far. i love my place, i'm way too independent to become a groupie like that, and i have responsibilities like classes and a job that are about an hour closer to my place than his. oh yes, and the biggest difference... people always WANT me to be around. but i still want to avoid the illusion that i'm always there. i don't want to have to drive over for every "event," although i still want to be in on the fun. i want his friends to see that he's independent of both his parents and of me, but to know that i'm still the one, i'm still in charge, and i'm still missed. guys night without me is just a sausage fest. no eye candy. and so help me if that clingy chick visits his apartment, she better not start decorating it. i'm not doing it because it's HIS damn place and not mine, and she has NO stake on him so she needs to leave it, too. (i say that because apparently she began decorating her guy's room the second the first boxes were brought in when he moved, and redecorated his roommate's room and the common rooms the next day.) this may be mayhem's one and only chance to decorate however he wants because the next place will probably be with me... at that point i'll be back to having final decorating say on things. mayhem joked that he'd just put up a sign saying "no skanks allowed on the premises" (like the no guns signs) to keep her at bay. but i'm betting she was there last night. i'll be curious to see how that went.

anyway, i guess that's not so much a dilemma yet. and hopefully the next apartment he gets will be closer to me. or with me. driving waaaaaaay up there everytime i want to see him will get old pretty fast.